My son who is now turning fifteen years old within a few months but still not much improvement that I have seen in him. He is still non-verbal, he can’t talk and the way he communicate if he needed or wanted something are through gestures of stare. He looks at me and made a sound through his voice but no words you could hear exactly saying what he wanted. It is indeed hard most of the time when I tried to talk to him many times pretending that he could understand me but it seems frustration would comes out at the end. That is how I felt sometimes having a child in everyday life with Autism.
Everyday is the same when I wake up in the morning and preparing myself to go to work. My wife wakes up at the same time too . She had to prepare all things up that our children needed for school. Most of the time she does these things. She had the time because she usually go to work later in the morning like nine o’clock , I guess her employer was not that strict like mine. I admired her for taking care of our children especially our son, Jericho. Most of the time she got a lot of bruises around her arm and legs (Don’t get me wrong I didn’t hit her), and when I asked where she got those. She would answer “I got these from every corner of our house”, her parts of her body got bump every time she pulled up Jericho from his bed to wake him up. Sometimes we both do it together but a boy like him who is fourteen years old just imagine the blooming strength he has compare to us who are almost over half of our remaining years .We could not force him out of his room and he would end up laying on his bed for as long as he wants. For any reason there are times he got himself up from his bed about five to ten minutes before the bus arrives. Getting him up early is really important to get done his morning session like brushing his teeth, eat his breakfast and taking a bath . If he will would not have enough time the school bus would leave him and it would be another hustle for my wife to bring Jericho to school personally. If she does that it would cause her time going late for work.
I am very fortunate to have my wife who loves our children very much even we have some misunderstanding sometimes. We regularly talked about our son Jericho on what we could possibly do to help him. Although I must admit that our budget are not that deeper financially. Therapy are very limited for our son Jericho because of that. We tried to get him help from Social Security System but they denied him. For a reason other than we could survive everyday because me and my wife are both working , I don’t know why they had denied support for our son, Jericho. Paying bills and buying food or things that we need after that there would be not much money left to pay an expensive speech therapist that our son Jericho is deeply needed. So we just hope there that his school would help him a lot, which I presumed now that the result have not much of a difference after so many years had passed.
It takes a lot of love and controllable patience to take care a child that has autism. He broke several walls of our house when he always hit and stumped his feet on it. He does this thing when he wants something bad and he couldn’t say it. When it comes to this I often ask him what he wants and if I couldn’t get the answer my wife would try it. I would say she had someway of doing it better so special that would make my son stop of being annoying.
The other thing that he broke was not part of the house this time though, it was our Samsung 60 inches TV. We have it in our Master’s bedroom and he loves to go there and watch the YouTube Channel with those videos about vacuums , small trucks or any other movies that probably tickle his imagination. He watch those for long hours ,everyday even after school he went straight to our room and watch all day long. Until one day, the TV doesn’t want to turn on properly. No video but there is a sound, I had tried to troubleshoot it maybe it will take a few tricks to fix it up but unluckily it does need service according to Samsung Customer Service Specialist.
After a few weeks, here comes another issue, he got upset for something and he started his tantrum attitude . He bumped the walls, kicked the doors and next time I knew my wife calls me and she said ” Jericho broke the door. Can you fix it when you get off from work?. I said “Alright, no big deal”. I thought it was like small scratch or hinges came loose. But no and a big no, that was a huge hole at the bottom of the door. Gosh, I would need to buy a new door because that door cannot be fixed. When my wife got home from work , she smiled like saying “It’s alright honey, no big deal”. Even I was kind of upset I tried not to show it to her and I guess she knew all along that I got disappointed about what happened. But what can I do? I can’t find a way to discipline my son in his situation.
Each time we tried to talk to him, he was just staring or look at us and imitating each words we said to him. We even really not sure if he could understand those words we said to him. But each time we feel that everything would give up and fade away, each moment we asked him to give us a hug or a kiss , it was like a magic that he could understand it and he obey and do it. A hug and kisses that could melt a way those bad things that he did before. That one thing for sure , that would be enough for us to feel his love and say his sorry for all the troubles that he has made that day. Thanks for reading.